It's typical for parents always wanting to decide things for their children especially when it comes to their future.Some parents do that out of fear because they want to control their children's life so they never leave them or so they don't crash into the same mistakes as they did.Other parents who are leading a good successful life get obsessed with wanting to decide everything for their children,so they play on the safe side by following their steps and end up with the same outcome,which is a "Good successful life".
Mostly both cases lead the children to either way suffer or having no other option but rebelling.
Some would suffer because if they did what their parents decided for them,later on they feel like they are living a life that was never meant to be for them or that they are playing the wrong role.They could even suffer from jealousy if they saw someone they know who's leading a life they wished they had for themselves that could cause them failure even in the undesired life they are leading.
The ones who would rebel are those with the successful parents who want Perfection and no mistakes.Everyone wants to be unique in his own way and have the chance to choose the life he thinks suits him the best,but before taking this decision maturity should be there.
What I think parents should remember and never forget is that they teach us to be open minded and accept people the way they are without trying to change them because that's not our role in life,but when it comes to themselves and their own children they forget that and become over-controllers..Something else parents teach us and never really learned it themselves,they always tell us that it is okey to do a mistake and that we should learn from it but at the same time they are trying the whole time to make us avoid mistakes and always be on the safe side,am not saying that this is wrong but come on from where will life teach us other than from our own mistakes..
Now this part goes for the teenagers and young adults:
Never live the life of somebody else prespective or dreams,and remember we only live life once,so you always better try to make it the life of your own dreams and desires,better then regreting it later.
And always tell yourself that when it comes to life no one gets a second chance living it again!:)
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Yara,
ReplyDeleteWhat an interesting post.. I love your part to teens and young adults the most, that is a very nice and well said portion. In addition, you have amazing potential as a writer, keep it up!!
I believe that all you said amounts to the fact that our parents love us!! It is perhaps the love that you can never get anywhere else but from your parents... yes it amounts to sometimes over-protection, yes parents sometimes make choices for us that we don't like, and yes things could be better sometimes... but at the end of the day... our parents are blinded by their love for us ;)
The 2nd thing is...Rebelling can be more effective if it turns into dialog... In fact, parents appreciate it so much more... So you gotta be the smart one, which gets what they want through dialog with their parents.... A short disclaimer: Dialog doesn't always work... just so I don't disappoint you ;) But in many cases it works so much better than rebelling... and at the end of the day, no one purely loves your best interest more than your parents...
[haha so I'm done being the 3a2la :D]
Other than that, I strongly agree with your post ;) Keep up the writings ;) and I might go back to blogging too!
Best,
Sarah